Surviving and even Thriving Through the Holidays

Happy Holidays!

I think it is possible to enjoy the holidays – One Day At A Time – or at least make them meaningful. I also think that surviving the holidays is a great idea, so please drink responsibly or don’t drink at all because I would like to see all of you in the New Year. If you are in Recovery from Addiction, the holidays are the slipperiest time of the year, so it is important to have a plan:

I realize that, in some years, just getting by maybe good and there are websites listed at the end for people dealing with Unemployment, grief, suicide, deployment and divorce. The harsh parts of life do not seem to ever stop for the holidays and sometimes increase due to stress and intoxication. With that in mind, Keeping an ear and eye out for those who are not doing so well this holiday season can make you a real angel this holiday season.

Start with intent: What do the winter holidays mean to you? Consider dumping traditions that don’t work for you and adopting new ones. Each year is different, so why do the exact same thing every year?
Less can be More (more time, more meaningful and easier on the environment).
Plan: What are reasonable budget and time boundaries? Spend what you can afford in Time and Dollars. Don’t be a Scrooge if you have money. Spending money helps keep people employed.  Buy Sustainably.  It’s a small planet.  Buying experience, like tickets to a local event, is one way to buy sustainably. Buying from businesses with sustainable practices insures that sustainable businesses will survive and thrive.
Do Less than planned. A simple way of planning is to make up a list of activities that interest you. Then only do what appeals to you. This strategy can be much truer to yourself and more satisfying than following an exact plan. It allows for more room for intuition in making decisions.
Do what is really important to you (and let less important activities go).
Feel what you Feel (and let that be okay). Holidays can bring up painful memories and feelings from the past that need resolving.
Let it be (instead of trying to force it). It will be much better.
Limit time with people who are critical by setting time boundaries early scheduling escape excursions.
Escape to other people you love or escape the whole thing and go on vacation.
Treat Yourself.
Be kind to strangers
– volunteer. Give to non profits. Non profits addressing Social and Environmental problems need money more than ever.
Eat healthy, get enough sleep, and exercise, preferably outdoors to absorb some sunlight (even if filtered by clouds) to avoid S.A.D.
Remember to Breathe and Remember your Intent.
If you over do it a little, enjoy that too.
Guilt tripping is no fun.
Have fun! It’s not a performance

Surviving the Holidays
Sometimes thriving is not possible. The following are web sites I found that had good guides for surviving the holidays in times of crisis (I don’t necessarily agree with anything else these web sites say, but for the most part, I thought the ideas relating to holidays were useful)

First Holidays For Blended Families:



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