EMOTIONAL ABUSE TYPES: MaNipULatIve Yelling Name Calling CONned hateful things subtle innUendos Gas Lighting Putdowns BULLying Screaming ACCUSING BlaminG SHAMing withholding CONdescending DouBle BinDs CrAzY mAkInG WaLkInG oN eGgShEllS LyinG Countering Criticizing inSINuations hIDden Dagger trivializing ShOUTing Judging TaUnt SLur Blocking sabotaging Threatening Fake ForGETing Sarcasm Guilt TRIPping
I have experienced chronic verbal abuse by a parent or caretaker.
I suffer mental abuse by a partner (husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse). I am treated like I am the enemy.
I have been a target of bullying at school.
My boss is a bully or I have been a victim of character assassination at work.
I am in a relationship with someone who is condescending, domineering, manipulative, and controlling.
It has been suggested that my abuser has a personality disorder.
Has someone in your life frequently spoken to you in a way that left you feeling bad about yourself? If you grew up with frequent emotional abuse or have been in a long-term relationship with someone who is emotionally abusive, you may be experiencing what I refer to as chronic stress disorder or low-grade PTSD.
I am bothered by a low sense of self-esteem and/or self-worth.
I always do my best, but still feel guilty, ashamed or not enough.
I have had at least one episode of major depression.
I have frequently experienced low-grade depression. (funk, down, blahs)
I have problems with anxiety.
I tend to isolate.
I tend to feel uncomfortable in groups.
I feel stuck.
I have problems with negative self-talk.
I frequently forget little things or have problems concentrating.
My productivity has declined since becoming involved with an abusive person.
I am under employed or I under achieve.
Even though I make a great living and have a good job, I feel like a fraud.
I have had at least one incident of physical or sexual abuse or assault.
I have difficulty relaxing.
I have difficulty making friends or getting dates.
I deserve better treatment than this. I take pains to treat others well, but pick abusive partners.
If one of the first six statements applied to you & two or more of the remaining statements applied to you, you will probably find this book very helpful. It is a Healing Journal designed to help you keep on in track in healing from verbal and other emotional abuse. It can help you get the most out of counseling sessions by helping do a lot of work on your own to provide a strong foundation for recovery and target specific areas to work on in Individual Counseling Sessions. The book also focuses on strategies for responding to verbal abuse and other types of emotional abuse. The purpose of A Toolkit for Healing from Verbally Abusive Relationships is to provide a holistic roadmap to recovery.
Noreen Wedman, M.S., is a counselor in private practice in Seattle, WA. She specializes in working issues related to Trauma, including Sexual Abuse, Physical Abuse, Crime Victims, Domestic Violence, Chronic Verbal and Emotional Abuse, and Natural Disasters. Interconnected with her work with trauma issues, she helps people with the following conditions and problems: Depression, Low Self-Esteem, Anxiety, Stress Management, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Grief and Loss, and Relationship Dissolution (break-ups, divorce, relationship rebound).
©Noreen Wedman 2013